No, YOU’RE the best
Superficial, just for sex, full of morons: these are just some of the critiques levelled at dating apps.
But my philosophy – and I literally wrote the book on Tinder – is that if you are meeting people then there is the potential to meet someone special
I met my boyfriend on a dating app and I am not alone: there are thousands of us, loved-up thanks to a single swipe.
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, maybe these stories of dating app success will restore your faith in swiping.
Maybe even with love itself.
Sarah Atkinson, 33
I first saw my now boyfriend on Tinder: rugby kit, gorgeous dreadlocks. Yum.
I contacted a mutual friend who sent him my Tinder profile picture and he said he’d ‘look out for me’ so we never officially matched, and my friend did nothing to set us up. Friends are hopeless sometimes.
Fast forward to 2015, and I see this cute guy on Happn with short hair, wearing a suit; it wasn’t until we matched and he messaged that I realised it was the same guy.
We now live together and have a crazy amount of weird connections and mutual friends – we had probably been at the same parties but never met.
The moral of the story: apps make things happen and, as well-meaning as friends are, sometimes you’ve got to make the connection yourself.
Ashely Olsen, 29
I went on Tinder after an eight-year relationship ended.
I hadn’t really dated as an adult and thought it was a great way to learn; Tinder required little effort, unlike websites that asked you to write a big profile, and you’d chat for weeks before getting asked out.
I had strict swiping rules: tattoos – swipe left. Selfies – swipe left. Shirtless selfies – swipe left as fast as possible.
I wanted to date people with a good sense of humor, so I looked for guys with a description or pictures that made me giggle.
I came across a guy who was extremely cute, looked like he was a ton of fun and seemed genuine… little did I know I was swiping right on my future husband.
He immediately asked me for a drink.
Me: Don’t you want to get to know me a little better before meeting in person? I could be a homeless stripper.
Him: Dear diary, jackpot.
It really made me laugh so I took him up on his offer.
I had actually come from another Tinder date but we met at a bar and talked for hours.
We dated for a year before we moved in together, got engaged shortly after and have now been married for two years.
We both acknowledge that Tinder can be superficial: all you know is that you are attracted to the person and it is a leap of faith that you will hit it off.
What a hottie
Matt Day, 30
‘I must have had close to 100 Tinder dates before I met my girlfriend.
I had arranged two dates in one day and both were rubbish, so I decided to message her in case she was free – third time lucky.
She arrived drunk as a skunk and the bar she picked was so noisy I couldn’t hear anything she said.
She made a big thing about not sleeping with me then all but begged me to come in when I walked her home – I didn’t, by the way.
It was essentially the date from hell, but there was something about her.
I messaged the next day – apparently she told her friends she would never hear from me again.
We had dinner the following week and that was it – two-and-a-half years and counting, and I love her more every day.
Laura Dauny, 33
‘My boyfriend was my first and only Bumble date, and I was his.
We matched, chatted for about 10 days as I was out of town and then had our first date at a gin bar in Soho.
After a mammoth, rather spectacular drinking session, we met up again the next night and we’ve been inseparable ever since.
God bless Bumble.
Christina Edwards, 31
My pre-app-dating experience wasn’t great – it seemed like men were either super clingy or assholes.
One evening my flatmate and I joined Tinder after several glasses of Rioja; my boyfriend was the first person I matched with.
I panicked before our first date in case he was an axe murderer, but we met on the South Bank and wandered from pub to pub before grabbing some unplanned dinner.
We both knew pretty quickly that this was something different and before long we were sharing amazing holidays, tiny urban apartments and lots of wine.
We moved in together, he proposed a year later on a beach in Australia and we got married last December.
Meg Dupont, 24
Me and my boyfriend met on Happn.
I was in the Netherlands when I used the app and he was Dutch, so I was nervous about the language barrier – but from texting I could tell his English was good.
We decided to go to a gig, although I turned up an hour early and had to go home and come back again. Very awkward.
Then I said I’d buy him a drink but didn’t recognise the Euros in the dark, so he ended up paying.
We’ve been together two years.
Hollie-Anne Brooks, 28
I’m in something new and wonderful thanks to the Guardian Soulmates app.
We connected over Christmas so couldn’t meet, but spent hours on the phone and texting.
We had our first date at the start of January.
We’ve already been to Copenhagen and I am totally smitten.
Tim Robinson, 30
My girlfriend was my fourth Tinder date.
She initially cancelled because she had food poisoning and when it came to finally meeting I was so nervous I ate a whole bag of Percy Pigs beforehand.
I told her I liked her that evening and she moved in to my house six months ago.
Tilly Jackson, 31
‘I’d had quite a few dating app disasters but I’m a pretty positive person so I knew there were good men on there, too.
The first time I saw my now partner on the Inner Circle app, I thought I recognised him. It was really weird.
He has children and lives about an hour away, but my gut told me to look at his profile.
He said hello first and asked for my number after two days of exchanging messages.
We spoke on the phone on the Thursday and met up on the Saturday.
It was all pretty quick but I found I lost interest if a guy took a few days to respond.
The distance and the fact that he has kids means this relationship is different to any other that I’ve had, but we have both made an effort and put each other first.
I really believe in the law of attraction and being positive about love, and I think you’ve got to love and accept who you are before the right person comes along.
I would tell anyone looking for love to never give up, believe in your worth and know that you deserve to find someone amazing.